“I spent many years in traditional therapy attempting to get to the core of my trauma. I never felt comfortable to tell the truth, to go into my childhood to reach deep into the soul and share the darkness that had once troubled me. I did not know how to be honest nor did I know how to be vulnerable. I was tired of talking about the same issue week after week and re-living the trauma. I wanted to dive deeper into the brain, release the trauma, while gaining tools to help through this process.
There were several problems that I got the help to solve. I was molested as young child. It was from 5-7 years old. I carried this secrete for 32 years. I did not realize how much this had affected my life, my relationships and how much this played into my drinking and drug use. When I finally spoke to this issue, I was told that it was just an excuse. Then when I was attending traditional therapy it seemed as if we just kept discussing the same issue and reliving the trauma. This trauma with childhood trauma and being raised in broken homes with drinking, yelling and physical abuse at times lead me down a path of two failed marriages, having to leave my daughter, alcohol and drugs do that I did to feel emotions as well as three times I had a pistol to my head wanting to take my life. The third time that I had the pistol in hand and ready to do it, I also threatened a spouse’s life. That was when I knew that I had hit my personal rock bottom and it was time to reach out and get real help to help me feel and control my emotions without alcohol and drugs. What I wanted out of this was to be able to sooth myself. Something that I never had as a kid. To have tools to love myself and be content with myself in all aspects of my mind, body and soul.
Yes, I was looking for tools. I know that I have to do the work and that I have to make the changes. I did not know going into this that the main tool that I have been searching for has been there the whole time. It is my unconscious brain.
The consultation call. I knew that my life was going to change. Ashley made it very clear that I am the one that will be doing all of the work. Ashley would guide me through the steps, processes and self-work, that she would not force me to do anything. That is when I knew this was going to be different than traditional therapy. Ashley guided me through the detailed personal history. This is the first time in my life that I was one hundred percent vulnerable, I held nothing back and I got it all out for the universe to hear and so that Ashley could start putting together next steps. That next step was the release work. Ashley guided me through this process. It was a lot for me. I released a lot of energy that was no longer serving me and I also went through a lot of emotions that day. Ashley was right there letting me know that it is ok to cry and take the time that I needed to get it out. In the back of my mind I was telling myself that I no longer wanted to do this. It was in the third hour and we were deep into the release work and Ashley was right there to guide me through the hard time and feel the emotions and that gave me the energy, love and safety to keep going. After the release work, I did 12 weeks with Ashley. Ashley showed up every week positive, full of energy, excited, compassionate and radiating this energy that is felt through the world. Ashley guided me to the correct words, positive words and new ways to use all of my senses. One of the things that Ashley guided me to is the Reframe app. This app has helped transform my relationship with alcohol. The grounding with chakras, the meditations, hypnosis, building the avatar, setting values, boundaries. Everything that Ashley introduced me to and guided me through has been so profound.
The integration process, is just that. It is a process that will continue the rest of my life. It will bring peaks and valleys. The guidance and tools that I gained from Ashley are helping me keep my valleys low and have helped me reach peak after peak as I continue my journey. The biggest take away that I received, was the fact that I am in control of my emotions, that I am in control of loving myself, soothing myself. This journey is about me, for me and with me. I have the power to do whatever I want, to set a SMART goal and manifest it into my future. I have the energy inside me from source and mother earth. I also learned that we are all on our own journey and it is okay to be vulnerable and share that things are not going well. I have learned that sharing my story, progress and direction could keep someone alive or keep them from years of alcohol and drug use or even worse. Find people that share the same energy and frequency to be able to connect and share energy. My story could save someone’s life or change its trajectory.
I have been telling everyone about Ashley and her program. I have shared with them my story, journey and I have told them that if they are serious about transforming their life, Ashley will guide them through it.”
— Allen Dale Mitchell Jr. - USFS Captain Groveland Hotshots
“Through working with Ashley I learned how to create safety in accepting those parts of myself, not making them wrong and instead changing my approach to something with loving-kindness.”
— Sarah Kalmeta at Pivot Point International
“In one Breakthrough Session, I feel so much lighter and I can see beyond the problem instead of feeling like I’m running in a loop.”
— Thuy Tran
“Ashley has it all - empathy, skills, experience, natural talent and exquisite kindness. She recently guided me through a difficult but ultimately life-changing (for the better) period of growth and change. She helped me to hone a new vision, identify and remove blockages to growth, kept me accountable during the process, and presented myriad new resources and tools when my own skill set was lacking. I am grateful and happy in my current situation and secure in the knowledge that Ashley is there for future challenges. I can’t thank her enough.”
— Kerri Ballard, Retired Alaska Airlines Captain
“The opportunity to work with Born of Ashes has been transformative. Ashley took the time to understand my unique circumstances and designed our sessions to focus on steps that fit my lifestyle and goals. I left each session feeling empowered, knowing I have the tools to create change for myself. I am grateful for the Born of Ashes program and their support of Wildland Firefighters. Thank you, Ashley, for your guidance and expertise! Truly, a peaceful and enlightening experience.“
— Erik, Former Hotshot & Smokejumper
“When I first spoke with Ashley about alternative therapy and Mental and Emotional Release I was a little skeptical but still very interested. Ashley was so understanding and gentle with my personal beliefs that I never felt uncomfortable being honest with her or asking questions about the process. This understanding and gentleness continued throughout the many months of our work together. The breakthrough session and integration coaching with Ashley and the tools she provided me with were and continue to be life-changing. Months after working with Ashley, I still use the techniques we practice and many of them have become habits that I carry with me every day. Through the work we did, I was able to love who I am and who I am becoming. I’m so thankful for the time that I spent doing deep, meaningful work with Ashley! ”
— Brenna Jones, Helitack Squad Leader on Helicopter 506
“I was referred to Born of Ashes and I couldn’t be more grateful for crossing paths with Ashley. I needed help and was unsure of how to go about it. Ashley made the process seamless for me from the beginning. I always felt comfortable being vulnerable, which is essential to get the results you are looking for in this process. Thank you for all your guidance and support. I now have direction and I understand all parts of myself. Overall, I feel relieved inside and out! I have the tools and resources that work. Thank you so much Ashley for being an amazing coach and I look forward to coming back for another powerful Breakthrough Session.”
— Kevin
“I am beyond grateful for Ashley and her devotion to the healing path. She has been an integral part of my personal journey. Ashley encompasses a beautiful balance of strength and gentleness, which provides a safe space to go deep and fully surrender. Her knowledge and dedication is evident as she walks you through the process step by step. She wholeheartedly believes in what she is doing and is living and practicing her own teachings. Her commitment to her clients shows up in her full and pure presence with each session. Ashley is honest, kind, trustworthy, respectful, dependable, genuine, professional, relatable, and incredibly encouraging. I appreciate her and the work she is doing more than words can say. Thank you, Ashley, for walking beside me along this path. I LOVE YOU!!!! .”
— Corinne LaBella